Some comedians make a living out of focusing on how rotten their life is. Rodney Dangerfield used to say, "I get no respect". He said he knew his parents didn't like him very much because they kept giving him toasters and radios as his bath toys.
We can be really rough on ourselves when life is tough. We tend to compare the worst of our experiences with the best of other people's experiences and somehow think we've been intentionally targeted by God or other forces beyond us. Sometimes we are responsible for the mess we find ourselves in; sometimes others are. But Jesus tells us, "In this world, you will have trouble." It comes with the territory when we live in the midst of the Curse.
There was a man named Job who thought his life was cursed, too. He said, "Why was I even born? Let the day of my birth be erased as well as the night I was conceived. Let that day be lost even to God so that no light can shine on it." Yikes.
Job was described as a righteous man who wanted to obey God, and yet his life was struck with a series of tragic events that left him reeling and writhing in agony both inside and out. He had good reason to feel like he was cursed. Here's just a glimpse: all his servants were killed, he lost his entire livelihood (sheep, cattle, camels, donkeys), his sons and daughters were killed, his body was covered in painful sores, his wife told him to curse God and commit suicide, his best friends judged him, and he had bad breath (no, really...that's in there).
The worst of life had hit Job: he lost everything...but he didn't lose God. Most of the rest of the book of Job is a record of his conversations with his friends and with God. Eventually, Job found peace with God and said, "I know You can do all things, and that no purpose of yours can be thwarted. Before all this happened, I had only heard about you, but now my eyes see you".
The believer in Jesus has hope beyond the Curse -- even those chronic, repeating curses that have affected our family for generations. Though this world -- and the adversary -- attempts to entangle us in the grip of its curse, in Christ we have life!
When you feel like your life is cursed (and unredeemable), here's what God's word counsels us to do:
1] Cry out to God. Yes, cry (shout, whine, moan, complain, whimper...). It's OK to agonize over your grief and loss. Job did. So did David...and so many other biblical "heroes". It's OK to be honest with God; He will not get knocked off His throne with your honesty. And when you're finished crying, listen.
2] Make a choice for faith. When things have been difficult for me to understand, I have often spoken these words: "There is a God, and He is good." I know God is for me, not against me. I confess these words with my mouth and believe them in my heart -- and God lifts me.
3] Do yourself no harm. If your problems are the result of bad decision-making, then make different decisions. Whatever circumstance you find yourself in, don't perpetuate a curse by speaking curses over yourself (or others). God's counsel reminds us to use our words to build up and edify.
In Christ, you are not living under a curse. In Christ, you have Life.
"We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed" (2 Corinthians 4:8).